Fate is not the playright

"In the dreams of life, fate is not the playright, but one's own self when he or she choses his or her role." Florita Bradford, author

What is fate?

What is fate?  Well it is a number of things.  From the puppy that comes from another state into your arms just when you need him the most, to making an incredible move out to an entirely different culture and finding yourself.  Fate can be as simple as sitting down on a train across from a complete stranger and finding complete and utter happiness instantly.  Strapping on a snowboard and instantly finding your saving grace, despite how many times you may fall down the hill. Unfortunately fate can also be what causes you to part ways with your best friend just when you feel as though you need him/her the most.  But the beauty of fate, it gives you a connection that allows you to understand this meaning; you can never miss someone who has never left your heart.

Yeah I would have to say I have a pretty good idea of what fate is.  Do I think it's fair?  I'd like to tell myself yes there is always a reason for everything, I have great faith in my heart, and although on certain days it is quite hard to convince myself that sometimes fate works in mysterious ways.

Fate has something to do with the cosmos...

Wikipedia claims it to be a predetermined course of events, attributing the mystery of fate to the cosmos.  Ok I see where some people may doubt this statement because the definition of fate includes the word cosmos, but seriously, how could you not believe in something higher? Think about it.  I know I have had way too many things occur to even ask the question what is fate?  Fate and me, we go back, quite a ways actually and I stand behind it.

Fate is defined by Dictionary.com in both its noun and verb form.

Fate: IPA noun, verb, fated, fating.
noun
1. something that unavoidably befalls a person; fortune; lot: It is always his fate to be left behind.
2. the universal principle or ultimate agency by whick the order of things is presumably prescribed; the decreed cause of events; time: Fate decreed that they would never meet again.
3. that which is inevitably predetermined; destiny: Death is our ineluctable fate.
4. a prophetic declaration of what must be: The oracle pronounced their fate.
5. death, destruction, or ruin.

verb (used with object)
7. to predetermine, as by the decree of fate; destine (used in the passive): a person who was fated to be the savior of the country.
Dictionary.com also says that the word fate is used alongside kismet, karma, chance, luck, destiny and doom.  All of which refer to the idea of fortune, that something is predetermined and inescapable.

Everyone has to understand there is a difference between fate and destiny.  Each one of us I believe is born with a destiny.  Unique talents and innate gifts that allow us to reach the ultimate goal of feeling fulfilled, knowing that we accomplished exactly what we were placed on this earth to accomplish.  What'ss the difference between fate and destiny?  Well fate comes to those who need it but it may not always reveal itself in positive ways.

The three Greek Fates

Of course you must be asking well what is fate in Latin?  "Fatum" or that which has been spoken.  According to Greek mythology there were the Moirai (Moirae) or goddesses of fate who personified the inescapable destiny of man.  Zeus of course was the God of Fate who over saw the three goddesses in their daily dealings.  Each of the goddesses' names described their duty in the grand scheme of each individual's fate.  Klotho (The Spinner) was in charge of spinning the thread of life upon which fate would go, Lakhesis (Apportioner of Lots) measured the amount of the thread, and lastly Atropos (She who could not be turned) would cut the thread of life accordingly.  In Roman mythology the three were known as the Parcae, and were Nona, Decuma and Morta.

I have nothing right now to be miserable about.  Instead I am writing this article because I believe deeply in fate and it is about to get me through another storm.  Personally, fate to me is an umbrella that won't protect you 100%, but it does offer enough shelter to get you through until the sun will shine again.

Everyday I smile, no matter what, at least once.  Sometimes the mere smile on my face brings joy to others.  Whether it was fate that I worked at the office for two years, helping multiple customers by listening to them and offering them advice not only on their property tax grievance woes but also their marriages, finances (even though fate has kinda left me hanging on that one myself) life threatening illnesses or just plain old days that nothing goes right, I believe there was a reason I was there.

Over the years, I have run across fate on multiple occasions, we have danced, flirted and even spent a few short stints together on the road, and in all seriousness there is not one part of me that doubt�s the power behind the mystery of fate.  The BQB, well we are here bringing you articles, blogs and information based on fate.  About a year ago I found myself struggling within a career that was not offering a creative side, I started searching Craigslist and bam, BQB.

What is fate?  Fate is a series of events that we deem as fortunate or unfortunate that I honestly believe lead us to the destiny we are meant to fulfill.  Think I'm nuts?  That's fine.  Remember you chart the course to your ultimate goal (destiny), fate just simply makes sure you don't go off the map completely.

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Holly Robin Clark
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Brenda and I are very proud of this....

One of the Arizona Press Women judges wrote this about our book: "What a wonderful read! No matter some tears; the smiles and hopes and dreams of those who subvmitted their stories resounded. Fate? Maybe. Coincidence? Again, maybe. Changed lives? Absolutely! Thank you for this wonderful book."